PROFESSIONAL MATCHMAKER LONDON
1:PROFESSIONAL DATING AGENCY
2:LONDON PROFESSIONAL SOCIAL EVENTS
4:MEN WE REJECT
5:LADIES WE REJECT
1. THE HIGHEST QUALITY AND MOST SUCCESSFUL PROFESSIONAL INTRODUCTION AGENCY YOU CAN JOIN OR YOUR FEE REFUNDED towards any other dating service on the planet.
For full details read our main site at : www.thematchmaker.co.uk
Other London professional matchmakers you may compare us against include, 70-30, SeventyThirty, Drawing Down the Moon, Sara Eden, Attractive Professionals, Berkeley international Gray and Farrar, Foy Associates, Gray & Farrar, Seventy-Thirty, Elect Club, Dinner Dates, Only Lunch, Elan introductions, Just Lunch, RSVP - If you do not think after trying us, we are TWICE as good as any of these, OR ANY OTHER dating agency we will make a refund, towards their joining fees.
THESE ARE SOME OF OUR GUARANTEES. We have yet to find one agency that will match or better even one of them.
1. Change your mind up to three days after joining and have ALL your membership fee refunded.
2. Try us for SIX weeks, meet our members and have all your money refunded towards any
other agency in the world, if you are not impressed.
3.If we fail to supply you with AT LEAST 10 good QUALITY members to ACTUALLY MEET we
will refund your membership fee proportional to any shortfall e.g.only 8 dates = 20% refund
0 dates 100% refund. (it has never happened yet in our 30 years)
If you join on the day of your interview we add three more guarantees/benefits
4. Within your first 2 months with us you may request indeed for any reason a 50% refund, e.g. you move, find a partner - even if it was with one of our members, We will extend this guarantee to 3 months if you lose your job.
5. If you are a current paid up member with another UK professional introduction agency and within your contracted membership period (many agencies leave you on forever as a "filler" to bulk out their membership), and they find you a for-life partner to marry, or live with, we will refund your membership fee
6. Pay just 50% of the membership fee and try the service first before paying the balance. (we wonder how many agencies in the UK would still be in business with this feature).
FOR FULL DETAILS ABOUT US SEE www.thematchmaker.co.uk established 1985. ABIA
For London professional single social events suitable for clients aged 38 to 65 see
www.executiveparties.co.uk They hold parties in London every week using top venues, The Ritz,
The Savoy, The Ivy la Gavroche etc.
"ALL MARRIED MEN THINK ALL SINGLE MEN MUST BE RICH!"
Drinks and dinner parties at London's top venues, The Ivy, Le Gavroche, Le Caprice,
The Wolseley, Langans, The Ritz, The Savoy, Crockfords, etc. Designed for
professionals from age 38 to early 60's For full details see
3. TRAINING COURSES
We organise a range of useful training courses, indeed they carry the guarantee that if you do not think they were worth every penny, then call us within seven days of the training and we will make a donation of 50% of the fee you paid us to charity (never happened yet!) for further details see www.dateus.me.uk
CLIENTS WE REJECT
We maintain the quality of our dating service by enforcing a minimum standard for all new
members. This basically means would our members be PROUD to meet you and are you
of a high enough calibre that they could form a lifetime relationship with.
WHO DO WE NOT ACCEPT -
AND RECOMMEND THEY GO TO OTHER INTRODUCTION AGENCIES.
4. MEN WE DECLINE & WHY
We do not usually accept men under 5ft 6ins in height, as our service would not be good
enough as most of our ladies will not date short men ( the average height of a male in the
UK is 5ft 9ins).
Unless there are exceptional circumstances we would not accept a man aged above 34
still living at home, we would expect him to have his own residence ( living in the west
wing of Longleat House would be acceptable me Lord!). Average appearance is acceptable but
"slobby or unkempt appearance would not be acceptable. Men with little ambition. such as a
degree qualified professional aged 38living in London earning under 35K how could he
support a family? his wife would have to work to support him?
A GUY OF THE HIGHEST QUALITY
We had a call from a mega successful European businssman, tall, well spoken with a very high life
style. However when questioned on the telephone where he wanted to be in two years time he
said "travelling the World with a great girlfriend but definately not married". He was refused an
interview as I explained all my female members would hope to be married in two years time and
can find their own 'good time relationship' without our help. He thanked me for our honesty and
said if he had any friends who were serious about finding their life partner he would definately
recommend us. I cannot envisage any other dating agency not snaching his hand off to join them
as the quality of this guy does not get better - unless you are looking for a serious partner of
WRONG PRIOIRITIES IN LIFE
We interviewed a solicitor earning £60K pa, who wanted to give it up and fulfil his ambitions of
getting married to have a family, then leaving his wife and child in the UK to travel abroad doing
charity work for about £25K pa. Very noble, but that means his desire for life fulfilment for charity
work , takes priority over that of his wife and family, who would have to struggle on, with little
support from him, while he gads about Africa living his dream, looking after everyone else except
his family.. DREAM ON he was sent away.
MEAN SELFISH MEN
Guys who want to meet only attractive ladies aged under of 33, who do not have children and
would not want to have children in the future. Now that's what we call real selfish. If he understood
just how important it would be to 99% of ladies God makes, that when they find their life partner
they will biologically ache for a child, yet he would not be DELIGHTED to give her that gift, how
selfish is that?
EVEN WORSE MEN
We had one guy in addition to requesting the above, also asked that a potential partner was
prepared to sign a pre nuptial agreement. So that means an attractive lady in her prime at age 28
to 35 latches on to this guy, then as she loses her youhtful beauty so at age 44 +
he can trot off and find a younger model. Selfish sod, being a man means that you plan and take
care of your soulmate for life, not just use her to suit your own needs then discard her.
Some men have no emotional side to them. They are not caring, do not understand women's
needs at all and although quite capable of providing a high material lifestyle, it would be a cold,
distant relationship - and WE don't do grey boring marriages we are paid to find lifetime
soulmates, not dull husbands.
A pilot called us about membership and explained that although he met plenty af attractive ladies
they did not have enough wealth. Mean sod, he wanted her to have at least as much money as he
had. On your bike, count your money every night on your own. A man looking for a partner with a
substantial financial contribution is looking for a partner for the wrong reasons. How can you ever
love a mean man?
TOO OLD AT 31
One guy aged 31 was like interviewing a stoggy 48 year old. He had a degree but had the same
job (which he didn't like) since he left university. I could not envisage any of my female members
being happy to be introduced to him, so I recommended two other professional introduction
agencies to him, the first of whom snapped him up!
One guy with a degree aged 42 and living in London earned £24K and was already with a London
"professional dating agency", He asked if he could join us. and meet laies in ther 30's. I explained
that all my ladies would be mortified to be introduced to someone earning so little, they would have
to work for life to support the home. I advised him to return to his agency and ask to meet career
professional ladies aged over 47 whose life would centre around her career and she may well
settle for guy at home. He could run the bath, lay out next days clothes and cook dinner which is a
million times better than what a dog or cat can do. He wrote me a lovely email saying he was
taking the advice.
6ft tall successful and widowed all seemed great at the interview only to be informed at the very
end , he only wished to meet ladies who were VERY active catholics. Regular church goers we
enquired? no a lot more, attending various chuch governance meetings etc. We told him "no
chance" try at the church.
A REAL MAN
A real man, whom women would die to marry has to have the following factors. Summarised it is
strong intelligent and caring.
1. STRONG INTELLIGENT He must be stronger than her ,emotionally and intellectually, otherwise
how can she respect a weaker man or a drip, even with a body of Adonis she will soon tire
of his company. It is amazing how most successful professional women have had relationships
with "sweet men" lacking in strength of character and "mummies boys". At our interviews we
explain why this happens, so you stop wasting your time on them in the future.
2. GENUINELY UNATTACHED He must be 100% unattached, to fall truly in love. We do not
believe a woman can share her man with ANY other women, be it he is still in love with an
ex girlfriend / wife, dotes over his daughter from a previous marriage always putting her first,
has another girlfriend somewhere or you do not trust him to remain faithful to you, or indeed
and especially still tied to HIS MOTHER. This will always prevent a special bonded relationship,
an ordinary marriage maybe, a soulmate - no chance.
3. IS HE READY FOR COMMITMENT. Many men are looking for a good sexual relationship
without a long term commitment. Many men are not ready to get married and you can spend
years waiting and eventulaly give up. So within 6 months of a new relationship unless you
are spending a lot of quality time together and you are a "team" so that you miss each other
when apart, the chances are, it is unlikely to develop into a very special relationship. If after 6
months or so his priority is a week end with the boys playing golf - get out, find a real
relationship. If he can afford to lose you, the relationship is rubbish, better to break it now
while time is on your side rather than waste another year of your time.
4. MATCHING LIFESTYLES He should fit comfortably within your lifestyle, friends and family to be
proud of him. Similar manners, culture, ethics etc. Even if he is tall dark handsome and rich if his
main interests are stamp collecting ,train spotting, darts and quiz nights at the local pub whereas
yours are art galleries theatre and travel, or he swears or spits food when he talks when out to
dinner with your friends / family no chance dump him.
5. WHERE ARE YOU GOING If a guy's dream is to open a donkey sanctuary in the Gobi
Desert with the nearest "shack" 40 miles away, going back to nature- self sufficiency- no
electric thank you. And your dream did not include living in shacks or tents, don't go there
you will not change his dream. In three years time after being made redundant he is off to
live the dream at Tent 2A Gobi Desert are you coming?
6. HE NEEDS TO EARN AS MUCH AND OWN AS MUCH AS YOU. There are few exceptions to
this rule see end of this paragraph. If the guy earns less than you, how can he be your knight in
shining armour? your provider? It means if you go on holiday he treats you to a two star hotel
( have you ever stayed in two star hotel? think it is based on a maximum cockroach count) or you
go five star and you pay. It gets to you, it will not work, you will lose respect for him. A normal man
will feel insecure and start to become possessive and jealous. Two types of men would be
happy with this sort of relationship a "mummies boy" who's mother has always been his decision
maker and provider and he will look fo ra wife to take on his mother role plus sex as well! and a
mean/lazy man will like this arrangement and he could give up his job up. Kick them out
- losers! The exception: if a guy gave up a highly paid Harley Street private practice making 200K
doing face cosmetic operations on rich old ladies and switched to restoring the faces of British
soldiers for far less money, a successful professional woman would not judge the person on the
money he earned, but would respect him for what he did and the reason and although she may
earn more money than him, she would respect him as she would not equate his worth and status
to his salary.
7. CARING NATURE The guy may be tall dark handsome and rich, but what use is this to you if he
sods off with a 28 year old when you reach the age of 48 with three kids. This means spending 40
years on your own looking at the wall with your weekly whist drive in the village hall or sitting on
some sundrenched beach all day reading books. No man has ever walked into our office and told
us he looking for a women to marry that will grow old and wrinkly with a hump on her back so he
can spend all his money on her and look after her in her old age - but if you get the relationship
right that is what we do. However if you do not get a proper bonded relationship he will often
rum off with younger model.
If your guy is arrogant ,mean or selfish how the hell can you trust him not to let you down. It may
seem alright now while you're young and attractive but what happens when you are 48 if he puts
his interests first as he always has done. Where is his caring nature to put you first, throw him out
before you even remove any clothing for him, mean men are dangerous for your long term health
and should carry a government heath warning, similar to that on cigarettes.
I hope this information helps you to select a life's winner as the problem with most ladies is, once
you start a sexual relationship you become blinded by the emotional feelings you have, which then
override caution and natural common sense. Most relationships do not fail after 2 years, they
started to fail after 6 months and women cling on for dear life hoping it will change and get better -
it NEVER does, chuck him out earlier, give yourself a chance to meet a good guy it will not
happen whilst you waste your time with him.
5. WOMEN WE DECLINE AND WHY.
Top quality men demand to meet top quality women it makes sense. A guy may hit upon you in a
bar for a one night stand if he fancies you, but demands completely different standards when
looking for a wife. Like it or not there is nothing politically correct about dating it is totally
prejudicial, it is the way nature made us.
99% of normal men will only be attracted to attractive ladies. ( if you are a loser you have to settle
for what you can get) . So if you are not very attractive with an average overweight figure and a
normal personality, why would a successful guy choose such a person as apposed to a very
attractive, slim ,warm personality, intelligent younger lady. We have had 30 years experience
in the dating game, would it make sense for us to turn away "large frame" older ladies who
would pay us £10,000 to join if we could find a way of making it work for them? We have tried for
30 year and we have not found a way we can make the service work. We could instigate
dishonest ways to give them dates, taking guys on for free to make up there dates who have
no intention of settling down, dating you with staff members or friends or phoning up a client
asking him to meet a rich old biddy and we will select two cracking younger ladies for him
as thank you, oh God would we be rich! but we don't.
In an exclusive area of London I met with a lady from an eastern European counrtry where
stunning younger ladies fall in love with Engishmen's wallets. She had been married twice and
thanks to healthy divorce settlements had considerable wealth. She was looking for husband
Her first and main requirement was that he must be at least as wealthy as her (of course). We
explained that the guys with the size of wallets she was looking for ,were not looking to marry a 40
year old gold digger, they can get a fresh gold digger age 24 for the same price, her gold digging
days were over. She can sit in her luxury flat for the next 40 years looking at her wedding photos or
jewellery on her own. We declined her membership application
Because our guys are successful they have the choice of the UK. women. Men become very age
sensitive when seeking out there next partner and successful men can attract and date younger
women. So if a woman loses her youthful appearance as aging does, the men decline to date or
pair up with such ladies given the wider choice of younger ladies available to them. So
appearance and age are very important factors as to whether our service will work well for ladies.
We will not raise peoples expectations to unachievable levels or just waste their time and money.
If you wereour sister there is a point where we tell you our service is a waste of money - too
competitive, there are other ways of finding your man but not through an introduction agency
(phone us for advice it free)
We have found from experience that our service is waste of money for ladies over dress size
12/14 as our men will not date them, so we recommend you do not join.
This is good one, most of our female professional members when we first meet them give out a
protective barrier that most men who do not know you, would see an "intimidating". We always say
men are coming for a cuddly teddy bear not one stuffed with house bricks and wrapped in barb
wire. This is why we usually interview 98% of our female members for 5 hours. We teach them to
take away the barriers, soften, be proud of being "girly" and that will attract warm, strong caring
men instead of the weak, deceitful, married and or older men they have been having as
By the time clients finish the interview 95% of them will go on to be warm affectionate women, men
would be happy to settle down with. The remaining 5% we recommend they do not join as they
have become so cynical about men ( for good reason in their case) they will not soften
and remain hard, cynical, distrusting, indeed sometimes contemptuous of men, for these people
unfortunately they are beyond our help and unfortunately for them, not the sort of person our male
clients are paying us to be introduced to.
CAREER DRIVEN PROFESSIONALS
Many women for a variety of reasons, but usually for the same reasons, have made their life
priority, work. Being successful in a mans world, requies her to strive for success, financial
stability, self esteem and status (all normal masculine drivers) plus financial independence so
she will never feel vulnerable or reliant on a man, in case he lets her down. Many of these women
want it all, a high level career a perfect loving husband and children - dream on
I remember visiting a high level executive lady working for a top company. She had a high
powered job, excellent salary package and the high status that came with it. She had two
teenage children and a large house in a country setting.
Her husband was made redundant and he became the house husband so she could develop her
career, the provider, financialy independent etc. Hubby does the housework and waits for wifey to
come home, where is his manliness and self esteem? It was with the neighbour, who thought
he was a nice guy, she looked up to and respected him, so after a period of great sex, ran off to
live with her, leaving Mrs Career to her sort life out. She thought by contacting a professional
introduction agency I would be able to replace her husband who she required to be reasonably
successful to bring finances into the family and to look after the house and children or
contribute to nanny / cook so she could continue with her existing life.
I told her no chance, what guy worth a £1M is looking for this role? In 30 years I've never met one.
I told her look at the wall because in 10 years time when her job disappears and the kids have left
home, she can rattle around the house from age 50,60.70.80 on her own plus dog.
A few months later she called me, and said come and see me again,"I have gone part time A
lifetime partner is more important to me". She was ready to join and has indeed found her partner
ONLY WANT GOOD NEWS
A lady in her late 30's came for an interview and did not like us at all. She did not want to know
how many more ladies than men there were, or that men date younger and ladies etc. She went
home spitting blood and thought I was Mr Nasty for some time. She told her sister what a rotten
interview she had. Her sister thought, it makes a lot of sense to her, someone telling her straight
the way it is, rather than happily ever after fairy stories. So her sister booked an interview and
joined and paired up with one of the first guys she was introduced to. She sent her wedding
photos to us in February 2013 ( not for publication just for us) and they both looked a million
dollars. Her sister has now come back and joined as well and looking forward to some good
We get women who think they have everything going for them. When they go clubbing younger
men are all over them, they tell me they have no problem meeting men they are just not the right
quality. GET REAL the younger men are crawling over you to get in your knickers. Mention the
word "life partner" and the room would empty quicker than Bin Laden with a bag strapped to
his back .
One woman joined us, she was very attractive with a wow figure and was aged 39, and
very attractive for her age. At her interview she said she would like to meet younger men aged 30
to 36. I told her dream on, or go night clubbing, as guys in this age group looking for a wife and
children do not come here looking for a woman of 39, (take to bed for a bit of fun - maybe, to
marry, no chance). So she agreed at her interview a more realistic age group to date, to find life
partner would need to date 37 to 47. After joining she told my staff she did not want to meet
anyone over the age of 34. I gave her, her money back to join another dating agency as our
men of 32 are not looking for life partner aged 40. I cannot cope with dreamers. All members
are now asked at their nterview what type of person and age range they would like to meet and
if we think it is unrealistic we decline membership.
.PROFESSIONAL MATCHMAKING LONDON
Updated DECEMBER 2014
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